A guy who was asking me out one time, called me one morning that he was in a critical situation and needed to loan some money. I didn’t have any. He told me to look for someone to loan me the money. He said it was a matter of life and death and promised to pay back with interest.
That was how I went to a friend, she said she doesn’t have cash, that she will do a transfer. Then she asked what I needed the money for, I told her and she said, “Babe you be fool? I no get again.”
So I told him I couldn’t get a loan. He was kind of disappointed but told me not to worry about it; that he would look for an alternative means to raise the money.
I even called him a couple of times to see if he was able to raise the money, he said he was unable to. Honestly, I felt sorry for him and if I had had the money, I would have helped him out.
After a few days, my friend asked me about him and I told her he hasn’t been able to raise the money. Then, she said something like, “he done die?” I was like what? And my friend goes, “he told you it was a matter of life and death abi?” I said yes. Then she said, “so is he dead yet since he doesn’t have the money already?”
I was livid. I thought my friend was being mean and insensitive. However, fast forward to about two weeks after, I noticed he has stopped calling and texting. In fact, I think he stopped trying to get me to date him after I told him I couldn’t get the money.
So I reached out to him. And he told me he wasn’t really in any critical situation, he did what he did to see the kind of person that I was. If I am the kind of woman who will go all out for him. He needed to be sure. He concluded by saying that I failed the test and he is no longer down to dating me.
Right there and then, I knew my friend saved me. Either from getting scammed — because I believe he would have collected that money and not pay back – or from a shallow minded idiot who thinks I needed to be tested in such a manner.
I was appalled but extremely grateful that I dogded the bullet.
Fast forward to about a year later. I had a similar encounter. This time around the guy in question was just a friend. He told him he needed to clear some debts and that if he didn’t pay certain amount of money in a matter of days, he could get arrested. Bare in mind that this was someone I have known for years and never for once has he sent me a dine. Even when I asked him. In fact, on several occasions, he promised to send me money but never did. I was in school at the time and we all know students are one of the most broke people in this country.
I told him I didn’t have. Honestly, I didn’t but even if I did, I am not sure I would have sent my hard earned money to him. He than said I should look for someone to loan me the money and that he will pay back in a week or less. Me that was in school o! I should look for someone — prolly a fellow student who is equally as broke and hungry as I am — to loan me money to send to him. Him that was in Benin, working. Some people no dey fear God. I told him I had no one to loan me any money, and didn’t bother asking a friend this time around. I know he will be fine las las.
I am one of the kindest people I know. I mean, I try to do my best, when I can, for as many as I can. But when people deliberately try to ride on that kindness and take it for granted. Then I know better than to fall for it.
Moral of the story? Be kind but don’t you get played. Use your head. Always!
Thank you for dropping by. *muah*
P:S: If you read this and feel like I am taking a swipe at you, you are right. I am. And it’s what it is.